Most of the problems seen in marriages basically boils down to the questions, “He/She does not understand me”, “I wish my husband/wife gives me more time… etc.” We are faced with an “ I, me, myself” generation. Unless a husband or wife is humble, they will only look to their own needs and be wallowing in selfishness.Įvery marriage where each or even one of the partners is ego-centric, it is definitely heading towards trouble. Communication can bring understanding in a marriage, but it needs humility of mind to carry it further. The implication of this verse can never be greater than in the context of marriage. “…but with humility of mind let each of you regard one another as more important than himself,” (Phil 2:3, NASB). Another thing to do is to have a combined time of devotions / prayer time every morning and praying for each other for the day ahead. The best way to end this time is to pray for each other and for the various concerns shared. If there are children and it is a joint where this is not possible for some reasons, then it can be done after everyone is gone to sleep. It can either be after coming home from work while relaxing with a cup of tea and snacks. Some ways to do this is to set aside some time every day to talk.
“By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established,” (Proverbs 24:3 NASB). This is possible only when communication goes beyond information sharing to the sharing of hearts. And every wife needs to know the struggles of her husband so she can be a pillar of support to him. Every husband needs to know the daily (especially emotional) needs of his wife so he can meet it. Today most of the interactions are only information sharing. It is essential that every couple have a time of interaction on a daily basis. Every spouse is right and wrong in their own grounds, but usually ends with too much of salt that leaves a bad taste for everyone. The two things that are the key in a marriage to keep it strong and going are communication and humility of mind.Įvery marriage brings out similar situations that if not handled properly would boomerang and destroy the marriage itself. When they become aware of what actually was said and the intent behind them, they look like fools for making a mountain of molehill. More so when they think they heard something that was never said. Many a times it is how a person interprets his / her spouse’s actions or words that raises a problem. Most cases ha hndled today by marriage counselors usually turns out to be problems with understanding and adjustments. This trait is all the more essential when it comes to the special relationship shared between two people called marriage. Good understanding breeds good adjustments and adaptations. The person who comes next will know that salt has been added and need not add salt again. If anyone of them adds salt to the flour, then they would leave the salt jar touching the vessel with the flour. To solve this puzzle the three daughters-in-law came up with a novel idea. If salt has been added to the flour, how will the next person know so as to keep the flour from being salted again? In the event the breakfast on that particular day is dosa or idily then there is a problem. However occasionally when one of my brothers wants an early breakfast, they are the first to enter the kitchen and leave before the others could get up. Both my brothers work for call-centers their wives (accustomed to their timings) are the last to enter the Kitchen in the mornings. Let me begin with my own experience of living in a joint family.
Living in a joint family has its own advantages and disadvantages.
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